DEAR MISS MANNERS: My son had a lavish wedding six months ago. Since then, despite taking several vacations, the newlyweds have not written any thank-you notes.

I have reminded my son that people were very generous, and that his reputation is on the line. He agreed, but still nothing. I am mortified.

At this point, do I write to the friends and relatives who were included on our behalf to thank them for their attendance?

GENTLE READER: At least you chastised your son, and not your daughter-in-law. Miss Manners thanks you for that.

You presumably taught him better, but unfortunately, child-rearing doesn’t always take. And it never will if you let him avoid the consequences by doing his duty for him.

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